One of the most exciting things about Resurrection Day - Easter - is the reminder of new life. 

New life in Christ... fresh starts... bright beginnings...

One area of my life that needs a fresh start is in the area of health and wholeness. I'm basically pretty healthy except for one thing: I'm obese. My weight is affecting my quality of life. Being in my late 40's I recognize that I need to get control of this for many reasons: my own health, my future with my husband and my future with my children. My present and future call...

So I will be posting about my journey into health and wholeness in the "as a matter of faith" section of this site. If you are interested you can follow this part of my journey there.

For Presbyterians of the PCUSA variety, any conversation about children in worship very naturally leads to the Directory of Worship (you can read the ENTIRE Directory of Worship in context here: http://oga.pcusa.org/publications/2009-2011-boo.pdf

For those responsible for planning and leading worship, the framework set out in the Directory of Worship is drawn from scripture and is certainly an ideal. It occurs to me that some of the anti-children-in-adult-worship folks are also some of the biggest proponents of following the Book of Order so this might be helpful information in reframing their perspectives on children in worship. Certainly we live in a day that is different from the ideal worship and ministry settings the Book (and Directory) would lead us toward – however, these ideals are rooted in principles drawn from scripture. If we took W-3.1004 “Children in Worship” seriously, it would radically shift the way we “do” worship. It might even transform the church.

I have many opinions and lots of ideas and strategies – and I’ll write about some of those soon – but I think the following (quoted directly from the Directory of Worship – see the link above) is enough to start a fine conversation.  Please jump in (Presbyterian or not!)

W-3.1004        Children in Worship Children bring special gifts to worship and grow in the faith through their regular inclusion and participation in the worship of the congregation. Those responsible for planning and leading the participation of children in worship should consider the children’s level of understanding and ability to respond, and should avoid both excessive formality and condescension. The session should ensure that regular programs of the church do not prevent children’s full participation with the whole congregation in worship, in Word and Sacrament, on the Lord’s Day. (W-3.3201; W-3.5202; W-6.2001; W-6.2006)

W-3.3201             Setting an Order for Worship
In setting an order for worship on the Lord’s Day, the pastor with the concurrence of the session shall provide opportunity for the people from youngest to oldest to participate in a worthy offering of praise to God and for them to hear and to respond to God’s Word. (W-1.4004, 4007; W-3.1004)

W-3.5202             Elements and Order
There should be regular opportunities for worship in each church school class. Such worship may be less formal and more spontaneous than in larger groups. Yet it should include prayer and song that grow out of the consideration of the Word. It may include acts and tokens of self-offering and commitment, which may lead
(1)  to requesting Baptism,
(2)  to participating in the Lord’s Supper,
(3)  to affirming the vows taken at Baptism.
Worship in the church school is not to be a substitute for participation in the worship of the whole congregation on the Lord’s Day. (W-3.1004; W-3.3201; W-6.2001)

W-6.2001             Entering the Community
The Christian community provides nurture for its members through all of life and life’s transitions. The church offers nurture to those entering the community of faith,
a.  preparing for Baptism,
b.  including them in the life of the community,
c.  welcoming them to participate in its worship and to come to the Lord’s Table,
d.  assisting them to claim their identity as believers in Jesus Christ,
e. equipping them to live as commissioned disciples in the world.
(W-2.3012; W-2.3013; W-4.2002; W-4.2003)

W-6.2006             Resources and Occasions for Nurture
The primary standard and resource for the nurture of the church is the Word of God in Scripture. The central occasion for nurture in the church is the Service for the Lord’s Day, when the Word is proclaimed and the Sacraments are celebrated. All members of the community, from oldest to youngest, are encouraged to be present and to participate. Educational activities should not be scheduled which prevent regular participation in this service. (W-3.1004) An important and continuing context for Christian nurture is the home, where faith is shared through worship, teaching, and example. The church provides other occasions for nurture
a.  in the classes of the church school,
b.  in other groups and fellowships organized for education and nurture,
c.  in groups and associations gathered for service and mission,
d.  in committees, boards, and governing bodies,
e.  in retreats, camps, and conferences.
The confessional documents of the church provide guidance in nurture. (G-2.0000) Shape and content for study and instruction are provided by the rich resources of the liturgical, cultural, and ethnic heritages of the church. Educational materials developed for various approaches to Christian nurture are appropriate for use as approved by the session. (G-10.0102f)


Ready, set, DISCUSS!!!

Of course, what I'd really like to write about it how other people should get over themselves, but changing them is probably not within my sphere of influence.

You know who they are...

• the ones who won't read a blog created in blogger...
• the ones who live in public roles but limit their sphere of interaction to a comfortable few...
• the ones who...

Oops - wasn't going to write about them...

In all honesty - "they" are "me" too. 

I'm like them...

• I have strong opinions and don't mind sharing.
  
• due to my current 'in transition' status as a student (never mind that I co-pastored a church in another denomination for about eight years) I often find myself 'feeling' behind or cast aside (pretty sure this is my baggage and has nothing to do with what others are intentionally "doing")
  
• while my first inclination is not to take a passive-aggressive stance, it is incredibly easy for me to slip into that mode when I feel overlooked or slighted.
  

When you are (or have usually been) "one of the cool kids" (or at least one of those who floats around the edges of that category) you tend to live in a bubble - letting people come to you instead of going to people. I'm guilty of it. 

How many times have I been the one sitting while others seek me out for information or conversation or advice. Many. 

How many times do I actively move through a space, engaging people (not just friends) and checking in on folks who don't get checked in on much. Not so often. 

I'm not talking about networking. I'm talking about engaging with people about their lives for their sake.

It's easy to be the one people seek.

It's not so easy being the one who seeks people.

So today I'm getting over myself. I'm going to actively seek people and not wait for people to find me. I'm going to be present in my own life and in the lives of those around me. I am going to reject the bubble. I'm going to remember that not everyone who asks a question wants an answer. I'm going to remember that a critique of another's work (even when invited) is often going to be 'cause' for being ignored. I'm going to remember that even when I take the time to engage with others - they will not always respond. I'm going to remember that those people who drive me crazy with their inconsistent attention or disregard probably have no idea that I perceive them that way. And I'm going to interact on my own terms - generous terms at that.

So if you notice that I'm sitting around waiting for others to come my way - kindly pull the chair out from under me.

A friend (@reallish) tweeted: "High expectations, low serenity."

She made me think (and so early...)

It's a true statement but it's a conundrum as well. I replied "so, so true! But so hard to overcome since the converse isn't true." And later added "and realistic expectations are so hard to discern."

So the challenge, it seems, may lie in having realistically high expectations of oneself and realistically neutral expectations of most others. (Realizing that it's healthy to have reasonably high expectations of those with whom one is in relationship: husband, children, colleagues, etc.) 

Thinking it's also sometimes healthy to shift expectations to low in relationship to unhealthy, but unavoidable, people - you know, those people you have to deal with by virtue of family, work, etc. It isn't good to live in a state of constant disappointment - better to adjust what is expected if a different outcome is unlikely.

Just a few of my thousand or so thoughts,

MB